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Personality – The Meaning Behind Words

Ever been in a situation where words that are spoken are unclear, perhaps you heard them, but the words used have definitive meanings. What about the words that have multiple meanings, how can anyone be sure of the words spoken, when the words used have multiple meanings. You may say tone, which itself has multiple meanings, I rather say personality.

Personality
the quality or state of being a person
the condition or fact of relating to a particular person; specifically : the condition of referring directly to or being aimed disparagingly or hostilely at an individual
the complex of characteristics that distinguishes an individual or a nation or group; especially : the totality of an individual’s behavioral and emotional characteristics
distinction or excellence of personal and social traits; also : a person having such quality
Tone
vocal or musical sound of a specific quality; especially : musical sound with respect to timbre and manner of expression
a sound of definite pitch and vibration
accent or inflection expressive of a mood or emotion
the pitch of a word often used to express differences of meaning
a particular pitch or change of pitch constituting an element in the intonation of a phrase or sentence
style or manner of expression in speaking or writing
(1) : color quality or value (2) : a tint or shade of color
the effect in painting of light and shade together with color
the state of a living body or of any of its organs or parts in which the functions are healthy and performed with due vigor
healthy elasticity : resiliency

Both terms are rather expansive, but in terms of personality, I like how Merriam Webster shortened it to a simple phrase, “the set of emotional qualities, ways of behaving, etc., that makes a person different from other people.” Looking over the definitions for Tone, you can see how much it relates to either music, health, or attitude. This simplification is what I am utilizing in this post. Primarily since we are referring to attitude, speaking and even writing forms, we would be focusing on the 3rd and 6th definition.

I am always told I have hidden, or double messages when I talk about either my problems, my feelings, or just general every day tasks. This may be true because my personality is to avoid conflict, so would say something that doesn’t cause an argument.

Double Meaning
noun: a word or phrase that is open to more than one interpretation.
Hidden Message
information that is not immediately noticeable, and that must be discovered or uncovered and interpreted before it can be known.

I take pride in my causal use of avoidance, because it keeps people in a slightly better mood around me, although if people start learning my personality, eventually they will be able to interpret my messages, and the result would then be happiness for me, and those around.

Personality is the door to a persons inner most thoughts, it allows messages to be expressed in numerous ways. the door can be cracked, to let out a little expression, or it could be wide open, revealing all emotion contained inside. The ability to open or see inside can be impacted by anyone’s relationship, good or bad, the door is almost always open to some degree. I will never say that the door is shut, because I have never come across a person who can completely hide emotions. I wont doubt it either, there is always a sign that emotion is felt.

Those of you that used the word tone, may have been referring to this emotion that is seen, however, some people, and I consider myself one of these people, have the ability to suppress these emotions to make it difficult to give a meaning to the words being said. I have also been told that my statements that do have a clear definition, have been interpreted as double messages, So I believe that the key to interpreting double messages, or finding hidden messages, would be to know or at least have an idea of about a persons personality.

This knowledge has the power to guide and assist anyone, once you know a persons personality, you will know what they can do, want to do, and how you can help them, either by deciphering messages, or adding to the cryptography of the message. Only those closest to you will ever know what is meant when words come from your mouth.

Personality is constructed, so no one has the same exact personality, there may be similar traits, and core values, but there is always a difference. it may only be one trait, but that trait can easily change a person. How well do you know personality, do you have friends you can read without a problem, maybe you had that moment of confusion with double messages, what ever the case maybe, it goes back to personality.

Bottled Emotions

The irony of this topic has perplexed me, and I am happy to say that even though we have been wanting to talk about this topic for months, the time has come to ensure a complete somewhat biased opinion on Bottling emotions. Although it may not look good that we took forever to get to this topic, I feel that the wait has given me the experience I need to accurately state my opinion.

Everyone has a limit, and surprisingly that includes me, before I moved out it was not clear how well my emotions were hidden, and what affect they have on my surroundings, but once I moved out and have lived out with a couple of roommates, I have considered my self to pop a bit, maybe not explode, but I have definitely popped. The limit is merely an estimation of how much can be contained. I feel that it is always a bad idea to bottle all emotions up, both negative and positive results can happen. I will admit that sometimes holding back is beneficial, when you already have emotions held back it becomes increasingly difficult to hold more back.

The end result of holding an overwhelming amount of emotions can cause the bottle to pop, or even explode with negative emotions spilling out, wanting to be known. I have been away from my parents home for a year, and can only say that I have popped, or exploded Once, maybe twice. The result of this was a massive desire to tell everyone what I wanted done and when to do it, basically at this explosive point that was immediately.

I take pride in my ability to maintain control during these undesirable situations, however no amount of control can prevent a negative aura from filling the area once the bottle explodes. The amount of control affects how much can be bottled up, and once filled control may help restrict how fast the information comes out, but once its out that is when everyone is staring at you with that dumbfounded look that makes them think twice.

When I have moved out, several agreements were made, one to keep our friendship regardless of what happens, and to remain open and prevent our bottles from filling up. This has effectively allowed our living situation to maintain a level of calmness and relaxation that keeps us all in a good mood. Our explosions have been reduced to once or twice each, sure we all have control, but that is what has allowed us to hold conferences to let out emotions in a safe, relaxing, and sometimes laughable environment.

Personality has a major role in determining the size of the bottle, those with shy personalities have a larger bottle by nature because they want to stay quite, others who are more sociable, may have a shorter bottle since they talk a lot more. Attitude is another factor, those with a positive nature may find themselves with larger bottles because they try to handle negative situations with by finding the good things, while those with a negative nature may find them selves with shorter bottles, because everything is flawed and fill the bottle up one way or another. Control in my opinion can then be the lid that allows information to come out, or go in, with the right control, you can find the right time, safe place, to relieve the stress and emotion that is bottled up, or prevent a negative situation from getting worse by solving the problem as it comes so it doesn’t need to be bottled up.

Today I find myself bottling up less, being more open, and finding that balance between when to bottle emotions, and when to release them. This has caused me to be in a more happier mood, as mentioned by several people, and to understand and stop things from getting worse. So I ask my readers, have you noticed an impact on your life from bottled emotions, have you made changes to live a happier and more enjoyable life?